FRIENDSHIP.
What is friendship?
Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people, that has a stronger form of interpersonal bond than a mere association.
We all have friends that we really cherish and friendship is a very wide topic to discuss because we have different experiences in that particular part of life. So today, I want us to discuss the purpose of friendship, types of friendships, the kind of friends we need and the kind of friends that are toxic.
THE PURPOSE OF FRIENDSHIP.
Our desire and need to build good and lasting friendships is often undermined by a lack of focus on what friendship should really be about. Getting a clear picture and understanding the main purpose of creating friendships is very important since it provides the foundation for genuine bonds.
Friendship should be one of the best part of existence and yet it is mostly one of our disappointing realities. We all have different purposes for our friendships but I'll share with you guys what I consider the most important reason for having friends.
The main reason and core purpose of friendship, is to help us change and grow. Let's consider this:
You put an orange seed in an empty plastic bowl and water it for months. Naturally, even if you were to water it faithfully for ten years, it still will not grow into a tree. But if u put the seed in the soil, and water it, then it would eventually grow into an orange tree. The potential to grow is in the seed always but the environment around it that is; the empty plastic bowl and the soil is what makes the difference.
The same thing applies to people and friendships. Friends are the people who push us to grow into the best versions of ourselves and support us throughout this process. We can't achieve our full potential without great, true and inspiring friends around us. Therefore, let's not underestimate the importance and influence that good friends have for our growth.
TYPES OF FRIENDSHIPS.
According to one of the greatest philosophers of all time, Aristotle, there are three main types of friendships:
a. Self interested friendships
This is the kind of friendship where one party uses the other for his/her own personal gains. These are the people who will flatter you and manipulate you to get very different kinds of things that are mainly materialistic ; social status, money, a free treat, etc.
This type of friendship comes about because the person can help us in some sort of way that's mainly materialistic.
b. Friendship of pleasure/fun.
This one exists between you and the people whose company you enjoy. Most of the times these are "activity friends ". The people with whom you do things like watching movies, playing soccer, going for hikes, camping etc.
This type of friendship comes about because we enjoy a certain or various aspects of each other, maybe her wit, her compassion, his fun filled character, or his great sense of humor.
c. The perfect/ideal friendship.
This one is based on mutual respect and admiration. Its the most solid kind and rarest type of friendship. It takes longer to build than the other two types, but its the most powerful and enduring kind of friendship. This one goes beyond just pleasure and selfish interests.
It arises when two people realize they have similar values, goals and visions in life and both are willing to help each other grow. Here, you truly appreciate the other person for who they are.
THE TYPE OF FRIENDS WE ALL NEED.
One of the things that I have come to realize is that most of the times, there is no one particular friend who offers you all the things you need from your friendship. Some of your friends are great listeners, but are not always there when you need them, some are funny and adventurous but do not know how to comfort you at your lowest points, others are always there for you financially but not emotionally and physically and so on. We get different things from different friends and its just hard to get everything in a single person.
Its like for you to be healthy, you need all the four groups of food together with exercise and good sleep. You can't just eat well and miss sleep then end up being healthy.
So we'll discuss the eight types of friends we all need in order to be complete in terms of friendship.
1. The Builder.
These are great motivators and are always pushing you towards the finish line. They invest a lot in your development and genuinely want you to succeed, even if it means they have to go out of their way to help you get there.
They are the best coaches in life, they are the friends who lead you to achieve more every day.
2. The Champion.
They stand up for you and your beliefs. These are the friends who always praise you not just in your presence but in your absence as well. "They always have your back" as we tend to say it and will stand up for you even when you are not around. Champions are the loyal friends with whom you can share anything with.
They do not tolerate lies and dishonesty and you can always count on them to support you without judging you. These are the friends that are genuinely proud of your success and thrive on your accomplishments and happiness.
3. The Collaborator.
This is a friend with similar interests. Most of the time you belong to similar groups, share the same hobbies, work, visions, goals, like the same movies, music, food, books or sports.
These are friends that are always on the same page with you. You are always on a familiar ground with them. This can serve as a basis for a long and lasting relationship.
4. The Companion.
This is the friend who is always there for you no matter the circumstances. This is the first person you call when something big whether bad or good happens in your life. They are the friends that will sacrifice for your own benefit.
They are the friends whom you can literally put your life on the line for.
5. The Connector.
These are the bridge builders who help you get what you want. They get to know you and then introduce you to others. They help you extend and advance your network that gives you access to newfound resources by inviting you out to lunch, dinner, drinks or other social gatherings where you can meet new people.
6. The Energizer/fun friend.
That person you always laugh with, they are the friends with whom you share positive moments with. They are the people that cheer you up when you are low and do things that make you feel better. When you are around them, you are genuinely happy, you smile more and laugh a lot. They fill your world with positive energy.
7. The Mind Opener.
They are the friends that broaden your perspective of life and make you a better person. They expand your horizons and encourage you to embrace new ideas, opportunities, cultures and people. They challenge you to think in innovative ways and help you create positive change. These are friends that allow you to express your opinions aloud, especially the controversial ones that you might not be comfortable sharing with other people.
8. The Navigators.
They help you know who you are and who you are not. They give you advice and keep you focused and headed in the right direction in relation to your dreams and goals in life.
To most of my friends, I'm a champion, a collaborator, a companion, an energizer and a mind opener. So today, try and figure out what you are to your friends and make yourself better. Find the roles that are missing in your group of friends and work on strengthening the ones you already have.
Its just like a heist movie; MONEY HEIST for example, for you to have a complete crew, you need all characters and roles present; a leader, the Professor in our case who is too smart, has everything planned out and a perfectionist. The second in command, Berlin who's both annoying, interesting, charming and arrogant but the perfect blend. The narrator, Tokyo who's sexy, smart, unpredictable and stubborn. An expert in minting and forgery, Nairobi who's task in the Royal mint heist is to ensure the money was being printed and is a very disciplined character who ALWAYS does her job well. A great hacker, Rio who's brought in due to his hacking skills. The muscle of the group, Helsinki who has the tough guy look but does his best to maintain order among the hostages. And many more characters in that particular series. All these characters have different roles and this is what brings them together and makes them the best gang. For us to have happy, complete and fulfilling friendships, we need the eight friends who bring out the best in us.
Above a these, let's remember to read and get to know Gods perspective on friendship. In your own free time, look at the friendship between ; David & Jonathan, Moses & Aaron, Elijah & Elisha, Naomi & Ruth and Christ & Mankind.
Life is hard enough, you are gonna need love and support to make it through.
#stayhome#sanitize#staysafe❤❤❤
Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people, that has a stronger form of interpersonal bond than a mere association.
We all have friends that we really cherish and friendship is a very wide topic to discuss because we have different experiences in that particular part of life. So today, I want us to discuss the purpose of friendship, types of friendships, the kind of friends we need and the kind of friends that are toxic.
THE PURPOSE OF FRIENDSHIP.
Our desire and need to build good and lasting friendships is often undermined by a lack of focus on what friendship should really be about. Getting a clear picture and understanding the main purpose of creating friendships is very important since it provides the foundation for genuine bonds.
Friendship should be one of the best part of existence and yet it is mostly one of our disappointing realities. We all have different purposes for our friendships but I'll share with you guys what I consider the most important reason for having friends.
The main reason and core purpose of friendship, is to help us change and grow. Let's consider this:
You put an orange seed in an empty plastic bowl and water it for months. Naturally, even if you were to water it faithfully for ten years, it still will not grow into a tree. But if u put the seed in the soil, and water it, then it would eventually grow into an orange tree. The potential to grow is in the seed always but the environment around it that is; the empty plastic bowl and the soil is what makes the difference.
The same thing applies to people and friendships. Friends are the people who push us to grow into the best versions of ourselves and support us throughout this process. We can't achieve our full potential without great, true and inspiring friends around us. Therefore, let's not underestimate the importance and influence that good friends have for our growth.
TYPES OF FRIENDSHIPS.
According to one of the greatest philosophers of all time, Aristotle, there are three main types of friendships:
a. Self interested friendships
This is the kind of friendship where one party uses the other for his/her own personal gains. These are the people who will flatter you and manipulate you to get very different kinds of things that are mainly materialistic ; social status, money, a free treat, etc.
This type of friendship comes about because the person can help us in some sort of way that's mainly materialistic.
b. Friendship of pleasure/fun.
This one exists between you and the people whose company you enjoy. Most of the times these are "activity friends ". The people with whom you do things like watching movies, playing soccer, going for hikes, camping etc.
This type of friendship comes about because we enjoy a certain or various aspects of each other, maybe her wit, her compassion, his fun filled character, or his great sense of humor.
c. The perfect/ideal friendship.
This one is based on mutual respect and admiration. Its the most solid kind and rarest type of friendship. It takes longer to build than the other two types, but its the most powerful and enduring kind of friendship. This one goes beyond just pleasure and selfish interests.
It arises when two people realize they have similar values, goals and visions in life and both are willing to help each other grow. Here, you truly appreciate the other person for who they are.
THE TYPE OF FRIENDS WE ALL NEED.
One of the things that I have come to realize is that most of the times, there is no one particular friend who offers you all the things you need from your friendship. Some of your friends are great listeners, but are not always there when you need them, some are funny and adventurous but do not know how to comfort you at your lowest points, others are always there for you financially but not emotionally and physically and so on. We get different things from different friends and its just hard to get everything in a single person.
Its like for you to be healthy, you need all the four groups of food together with exercise and good sleep. You can't just eat well and miss sleep then end up being healthy.
So we'll discuss the eight types of friends we all need in order to be complete in terms of friendship.
1. The Builder.
These are great motivators and are always pushing you towards the finish line. They invest a lot in your development and genuinely want you to succeed, even if it means they have to go out of their way to help you get there.
They are the best coaches in life, they are the friends who lead you to achieve more every day.
2. The Champion.
They stand up for you and your beliefs. These are the friends who always praise you not just in your presence but in your absence as well. "They always have your back" as we tend to say it and will stand up for you even when you are not around. Champions are the loyal friends with whom you can share anything with.
They do not tolerate lies and dishonesty and you can always count on them to support you without judging you. These are the friends that are genuinely proud of your success and thrive on your accomplishments and happiness.
3. The Collaborator.
This is a friend with similar interests. Most of the time you belong to similar groups, share the same hobbies, work, visions, goals, like the same movies, music, food, books or sports.
These are friends that are always on the same page with you. You are always on a familiar ground with them. This can serve as a basis for a long and lasting relationship.
4. The Companion.
This is the friend who is always there for you no matter the circumstances. This is the first person you call when something big whether bad or good happens in your life. They are the friends that will sacrifice for your own benefit.
They are the friends whom you can literally put your life on the line for.
5. The Connector.
These are the bridge builders who help you get what you want. They get to know you and then introduce you to others. They help you extend and advance your network that gives you access to newfound resources by inviting you out to lunch, dinner, drinks or other social gatherings where you can meet new people.
6. The Energizer/fun friend.
That person you always laugh with, they are the friends with whom you share positive moments with. They are the people that cheer you up when you are low and do things that make you feel better. When you are around them, you are genuinely happy, you smile more and laugh a lot. They fill your world with positive energy.
7. The Mind Opener.
They are the friends that broaden your perspective of life and make you a better person. They expand your horizons and encourage you to embrace new ideas, opportunities, cultures and people. They challenge you to think in innovative ways and help you create positive change. These are friends that allow you to express your opinions aloud, especially the controversial ones that you might not be comfortable sharing with other people.
8. The Navigators.
They help you know who you are and who you are not. They give you advice and keep you focused and headed in the right direction in relation to your dreams and goals in life.
To most of my friends, I'm a champion, a collaborator, a companion, an energizer and a mind opener. So today, try and figure out what you are to your friends and make yourself better. Find the roles that are missing in your group of friends and work on strengthening the ones you already have.
Its just like a heist movie; MONEY HEIST for example, for you to have a complete crew, you need all characters and roles present; a leader, the Professor in our case who is too smart, has everything planned out and a perfectionist. The second in command, Berlin who's both annoying, interesting, charming and arrogant but the perfect blend. The narrator, Tokyo who's sexy, smart, unpredictable and stubborn. An expert in minting and forgery, Nairobi who's task in the Royal mint heist is to ensure the money was being printed and is a very disciplined character who ALWAYS does her job well. A great hacker, Rio who's brought in due to his hacking skills. The muscle of the group, Helsinki who has the tough guy look but does his best to maintain order among the hostages. And many more characters in that particular series. All these characters have different roles and this is what brings them together and makes them the best gang. For us to have happy, complete and fulfilling friendships, we need the eight friends who bring out the best in us.
Above a these, let's remember to read and get to know Gods perspective on friendship. In your own free time, look at the friendship between ; David & Jonathan, Moses & Aaron, Elijah & Elisha, Naomi & Ruth and Christ & Mankind.
Life is hard enough, you are gonna need love and support to make it through.
#stayhome#sanitize#staysafe❤❤❤
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DeleteAnd I suddenly know what kind of friend I am..thanks Estar. Its an enlighting read..pie
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